Do you want to feel joy once again as you fortify your identity? Reach a more heightened state of self-awareness? Moreover, do you want to experience a fresh new beginning as you renew your sense of purpose? I have a simple and mundane method:
The yanny-laurel debate did not arrive a minute too soon to teach us a stress- management lesson. Which word do you hear? Yanny? Laurel? If sensory input is not to be trusted, how can you trust that your processing of the truth is right? Here’s how to listen more intently and talk less:
The no mind promotes a calm can-do mindset which can deal with stressors or problems as they arise, one at a time, before they build up due to a fearful, wandering imagination. Here¡¦s how to tap into its powerful benefits:
In response to the constantly expanding endless to-do list I have come up with a counter strategy of what you will absolutely not do in the form of a not-to-do list. Here is what should appear on your list:
The number one factor which your happiness depends on is your opting to stay relevant throughout the decades. Relevance covers all aspects of daily living: Work, romance, friends and family. Here are 9 ways:
The path to well-being is a remarkably easy-to-follow and clearly marked trail. According to National Geographic Magazine no one has embraced the medicalization of nature more than the South Koreans who suffer from work-related stress, technology addiction, and academic pressure.
Winter is almost over, so why do you feel fatigued, achy and low-spirited? Get down into the earth and get good and dirty. Nature is a potent antidepressant. I am not just being poetic here. The soil consists of good bacteria.
No one starts out annoying. In fact, most annoying people try to be supportive and helpful. However, their noble attributes can be perceived as negative when others feel stressed in the company of these well-intentioned friends/ relationship partners and avoid them. Here are the habits:
So how do you stay on track with all your New Year’s resolutions ranging from becoming a better person to exercising/ dieting and saving more money? At the root of all resolution success is the one simple act of decluttering.
By the time we reach adulthood all of us carry some sort of relationship baggage. So whether it is a friend, teammate, or a mate you are looking for, a strong relationship can take root when someone feels comfortable in your presence. Here are 9 surefire tips for close friendships:
Most people can identify obvious bad mood triggers like chronic pain, or being left off the invite list to a party. However, there are subtle, sneaky triggers which can be arrested in their tracks with just a little self-awareness giving you more energy to find resilient solutions.
Reeling from Brexit? Take a deep breath and know that in the larger context, this too shall pass. Change is usually destabilizing and many people already have a negativity bias. Overload and adaptation is the cycle of nature. Here’s how to cope:
As long as you are at work why not up your productivity levels? This will not merely benefit your employer, but you will reap the success and status which accompanies an employee who is a great producer.
The primary goal is to ease the other person’s hurtful burden which they are carrying around. The byproduct of a successful apology is that you will feel relieved and absolved. The components of a successful apology:
People who feel hopeful about the future spend less and save more. However, when people do not believe that upper mobility could happen for them, they spend their money impulsively. 8 tips to curtail impulsive spending:
The endless-to do list keeps growing because we are basically afraid of having free time – what do you with it? So now that it’s acceptable to be crazy busy and stressed out as part of a normal routine, is it acceptable to be overscheduled and structured on vacation?
If you have spent a great deal of money on cosmetics – procedures or beauty products – you might want to reconsider. In the course of the female effort to achieve a gender equal society men have drastically changed. Here’s what men want:
Mattel has redesigned the Barbie doll with bigger hips and thicker thighs. After years of declining sales this new generation of Barbie dolls might address the emotional issues of the unrealistic body image. Or is this too simplistic? Here’s how to improve body image:
With the first major snow storm of the season about to hit many people are stressed out. So while people plan to dig in at home and then dig out, be aware of the many healthy positives about all that scary snow.
Resolving to be better is fueled by confidence. If you are changing habits because of social criticism or self-criticism, the journey will be fraught with anger and each step gets harder when you are weighed down by negativity. However, what if you approached a desired change with a personal delight
Coming home for the holidays can be bittersweet. Older relatives you adore could have become more forgetful in your absence. Ordinary conversation can provide important clues to the workings of the mind. How to assess:
A single polite gesture as simple as, holding the door open for someone, smiling at another shopper while on a frustrating line, or saying a few positive words to a friend or colleague can stop a stress response in its tracks. Here’s what you need to know:
Medical trends concerning diagnosis, treatment and prevention are constantly transforming, often reversing, as medical science learns more about healthy living through controlled studies. Here’s what has changed:
Did you know that the most requested item other than food in shelters and pantries nationwide are feminine hygiene products for teen girls and women? While food donations are actively called for, who would have thought of donating feminine hygiene products? A man of course!
Sometimes people get caught up in toxic dramas created by family, friends and colleagues. Note that there are inherent costs to this kind of involvement ranging from health to happiness. Protect your brain from negativity which causes stress and inflammation both physically and emotionally.
September is the month of new beginnings, a fresh start to trigger change. So with all that said, isn't it better to make your New Year's resolutions during the new vibrational energy of a crisp fall, as opposed to a cold, dark January?
As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. However, this uniformity is precisely the problem if you want to get ahead at work. The key words are cultural competence. Here’s how to diversify your friendships:
There is an obligatory form of love, the kind your mother nags you about, so you keep a ledger of a potential partner’s traits in order to compromise. However, love at first sight is an optional form of love like experiencing an awesome moment unexpectedly.
Here’s how to make it happen:
Exercise empowers the self physically and mentally awakening your potential to grow and move forward in life. Working out provides a natural high, so you can look down at your relatively small problems to see the total picture to then find a solution. Here are 5 benefits:
It’s time to spring clean your stressors in order to reduce inflammation and lighten your mood. Create a positive new script : To lighten up and be happier with less as you accomplish more for yourself instead of others. Because you are so busy, here are 10 quick stress-busters:
Currently, Alzheimer’s has become the “A” word in diagnosis similar to cancer having once been the “C” word – the diagnosis nobody wanted to discuss. But not telling a patient can have dire consequences. So why are doctors keeping this a secret?
Slowing down the aging process to a crawl is everyone’s dream. Here are a few strategies which could help you revitalize and regenerate. Do all of them and you will have discovered the fountain of youth
Who among us has not wished to be invisible similar to an undetected fly on the wall, safely overhearing conversations and observing others?
However, many of us grow increasingly upset and tired of being invisible for example:
If you are not part of a romantic duo, exposure to mushy marketing about love will reduce not only your self-image, but your self-spending. You feel undeserving. If you want to find the love of your life:
Traditionally, January signals a new beginning and for some this means divorce proceedings. Matthew D. Johnson, director of the Marriage and Family Studies Laboratory at Binghamton University sees an increase in breakups when holiday energy ends and winter depression sets in. Here are the signs
If you are looking for love, stats indicate that Venus and Mars are best aligned in the winter as you cast your arrows towards Valentine's Day. Here are 5 great strategies for a stress-free relationship success.
Trying to be happy, you feign super cheerfulness. This means smiling a lot and pretending everything is fine, and of course, verbalizing that you are grateful for everything! Consider that acting as if could lead you down the road of depression. Here are 9 grounded happiness tips:
Do you dread the holiday season because you have to spend time with family members who embarrass you and spark confrontation? If your past is always present, you haven’t worked through your relationship issues. While you are wondering, “Is it me, or is it them?” here is an arsenal of strategies:
The latest frontier in body envy is cited by USA TODAY's Arienne Thompson who questions female obsession with celebrity post-baby bodies, like Eva Mendes and Scarlett Johansson, who look skinny and toned soon after delivery.
The great horror of Halloween is that it heralds the cycle of holiday overspending and overeating. This year the National Retail Federation estimates that consumers will spend $7.4 billion. Here’s how to make things more positive:
No One is immune to medical mishaps. Whether you examine Dr. Nancy Snyderman’s breaking her Ebola quarantine, or Joan Rivers’ endoscopy, doctors appear to be behaving badly. Can a patient simply trust the doctor? Here’s how to avoid a medical mishap:
There are universal romantic notions: Love at first sight, “the one” who reads your heart and knows what you are thinking, and that overwhelming passion. But then daily realities set in. You feel wedlocked. Is sustained wedded bliss even attainable? 8 paths to happiness
The stress response originates from specific potent points known as your weakest links. When one of these points gets activated, you need a specific treatment to target that particular stressor. One size does not fit all. Here are 4 stress types. Which one fits you?
The ultimate question: Can your spouse be everything you want rolled up into one throughout the decades? When it concerns marital advice, like any advice, tread carefully especially if it is authoritarian. Consider how often the medical community reverses itself. Here’s how to navigate:
Research asserts there is a greater link between stress eating and weight gain than previously thought. Living stress-free is not a realistic option. And most of us won’t reach for broccoli and celery sticks when we are upset. Here’s how to deal:
Clutter has gotten a bad rap. Psychologists are always telling you to de-clutter and various specialists are eager to help you to discard and organize. Not so fast: Could it be that you are not hiding behind all that clutter, but rather using it for self-discovery?
If you are experiencing stress in your relationships, Independence Day can signal a major improvement. Tap into the energy! You don’t need a revolution to begin. How to become an independent/interdependent you:
The mere thought of a loved one getting Alzheimer's is stressful. But what if you were next in line? Alzheimer's starts in the brain decades earlier before it manifests. Currently cocoa extract is being studied as a cure.
In a time period of perfecting the art of the selfie improving your self-talk is a logical extension. Talking to yourself is quite common and what you say can impact your mood and energy. Here are 4 benefits in self-talk.
Whether you have been on more dates than you wish to count, in an unsatisfying relationship for years, or reevaluating your various friendships, you might be wondering why things have not been exactly going your way. Here’s the special missing ingredient:
Aren’t you tired of being told to be your authentic self, the best person that you can be, to feel more positive, happier and grateful? Here’s what you can do when you feel anxious, unhappy and ungrateful:
If you find yourself in a relationship rut, you don’t have to spend a lot of money and fly to Paris for the weekend. Think about where you want to be a year from now and what you need to do to get there. Here are 8 directions on how to get there:
When you feel that you are being taken for granted in any relationship whether romantic or work-related, this could signal the demise of that particular relationship. Here are 9 ways to transform the dynamics for the better:
While stress doesn’t cause allergies, it exacerbates and triggers flare-ups. Once you experience annoying allergy symptoms, you become irritable – which puts you into a negative loop. Here’s what to do:
Spring tempts us out of our baggy sweaters to shed the layers. But how do you jumpstart your exercise regimen? Do you work out with a friend, a trainer, take a class or go it alone? Here are the benefits, so you can decide:
As V- Day draws near, your jealousy meter could rise to the danger zone. However, instead of throwing yourself a pity party, aim Cupid’s arrow at your own stressed-out heart. Stress-management works best when you prepare before the main event. Here’s how to come and get your love:
Consider this game, as the ritual end to the entire football season and so, a celebration in nod of Valentine’s Day. In other words, a good relationship is based on reciprocity. Here’s how to make the most of the Super Bowl:
We all engage in a bit of celebrity gossip. However, when the story line concerns us common folk, we have a different standard, feeling hurt when we discover that a friend has gossiped about us, or revealed our secret.
Do you feel like the unwelcome third wheel in an animated conversation between two friends? Do you perceive yourself as banished to loneliness, excluded from the clique? If you are lonely, reconnect with yourself – enjoy your own company. Create a presence which will attract others to your side. Her
Tired of making grandiose resolutions which lose steam within a couple of weeks? While the year might be new, you are the same person on Dec. 31 as you are on Jan. 1. Here are 10 long standing strategies for the old you:
Do you want to end back pain forever? Then it’s time to look forward and make a fresh start. An orthopedist/friend recently confided that he suffers from sciatica like some of his patients. This piqued my interest.
Gift-giving is a complex human story which can either be inspired by the expectation of reciprocity, pure unselfishness, or even revenge. The Christmas season creates a gift-giving frenzy. Do you know and understand your gift-giving style?
The holidays are noted for weight gain, but what if it were possible not to gain any weight at all? You can counteract the excesses of the season: De-clutter and lose weight. This cause and effect works because there is an emotional component in both clutter and overeating.
Past research studies have touted housework and gardening as good exercise. However, in a new study from the University of Ulster about exercise habits, those who counted housework as exercise were more obese. Did the study account for personal execution of housework and gardening?
If you have been taught to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth, you might want to reevaluate this truism. A good lie has many fundamental benefits which include promoting well-being, compassion, good humor, and happiness.
Self-control means understanding the difference between reacting and responding. However, how do you get more self-control when confronted with habitual temptation-gratification during moments of stress?
Conversation is more than an art. The spoken word can convey confidence, power and authenticity. Wouldn’t you like to reduce the stress of a courageous conversation and know how you really appear to others?
The greatest stress in life is the stress we cannot control. You don’t have to give up on a relationship, quit a generally solid job or give up a professional educational track because you feel powerless or diminished. Simply, let go of self-criticism.
Many people opt to take their much-needed vacation in the summer when work slows down a little. However, who would ever guess that a vacation from work could be more stressful than the job itself? What can you do to stress less and enjoy more?
When doctors administer a dose of empathy, it is reserved for normal weight patients. The overweight patient who stands to benefit from understanding experiences medical prejudice - a judgment about their lack of will power.
It is common knowledge that most of us wear 20% of our wardrobe 80% of the time because we play favorites. However, we continue shopping and spending money that we could have used more wisely or saved. Time to reduce your closet.
An interesting trend correlates with women packing on the pounds – they are doing less housework than previous generations. There has been an attitude shift in the female population and housework has become a dirty word.
While the workplace can be a seething cauldron of stress for both genders, women tend to experience the following work-related stress symptoms like, short-term memory loss, lack of clarity, suppressed anger, fatigue and weight gain.
If a woman outweighs her male counterpart there will most likely be tension in the relationship. However, if the male is the heavier of the two then the quality of the relationship usually remains stable. Why the disparity? And what can you do about it?
January signals a fresh start in self-improvement. But what if the person you live with does not entertain the slightest thought about change? Many women who read self-help books have absorbed the notion that “if I change my own dynamics, everyone around me will change.”So does this strategy work?
What keeps you from simply asking for what you need, enlisting the support of family members, friends, colleagues and your boss?
Basically, it’s too little “identity equity.” The problem is that many people confuse asking for help with a sign of weakness.
Holiday stress can trigger depression, generalized anxiety and overindulgence. Overindulgence is the frenzied side of stress – partying, feasting, drinking and substance abuse. The consequences of overindulgence:
Does the mere thought of free time, a vacation, or meditation and deep breathing fill you with anxiety and dread? Why do many of us fear relaxation, taking time out for the self to do nothing at all? Eye- opening research leads to better coping strategies.
It is easier to vent about waiting on a long line or cutting ahead of others to beat the system than dealing with a fundamental loss or grief. Here is what to watch out for and how to cope with all that stress:
Halloween spending hikes in this terrible economy is a real horror show! A recent National Retail Federation survey shows a record 170 million Americans plan to spend $8 billion on Halloween. You can get to know people better on Halloween.
Have you been objectified in the doctor’s office, felt underappreciated at work or de-constructively criticized at home? Does that gallon of ice-cream control you? Getting more control often begins by going the opposite route:
Part of the problem with the end-of-summer blues lies in the following season’s name, fall. The word associations we have are: Fall down, fall apart, the biblical fall of man, and falling leaves – what a mess! 9 benefits of the season:
Most of us are aware of the big stressors which rob us of health and happiness. Did you know that sneaky little stressors can do greater damage, exacting a huge toll on mind and body because we are unaware of them?
Reciting affirmations, listening to motivational coaches – who needs the stress of being happy all the time, or overly optimistic in precarious situations? If you repress your bad thoughts to be more upbeat, you might become anxious.
Since studies show that women tend to bear a disproportionate load of the housework, it is a given that a relationship might be stressed if one member tends to be a shirker while the other an over-doer.
Our society is preoccupied with busyness. Can you tell the difference between a high energy person who lives intensely and the stressful energy of someone always living in the future for what’s next on the to-do list?
People in a relationship who disagree do so to communicate their feelings and pave the way for compromise and change. However, when anger is always present during a “discussion,” do you know that anger could signal sadness?
According to the American Medical Association women tend to suffer greatly from self- suppression. Therefore this Mother’s Day whether you are a mother or a daughter, it is time to nurture yourself: Have your say! Nice people don’t really like being nice.
It might not be readily admitted, but many people once they live with each other, “the person whom they fell in love with and initially wouldn’t change for the world,” will do everything in their power to change their loved one’s habits.
Spring cleaning coincides with the changing of the clocks and so, we need to reset our biological rhythms once again. These physical activities inevitably lead to spring cleaning relationships and if there has been a breakup:
The Oscar winner “The Artist” makes a huge statement about our current stressful lifestyles: It’s time to go silent, simpler and spontaneous. Movies present a wonderful opportunity for emotional therapy.
It’s easier to lick a bruised ego than take an inventory of personal strengths and act. Whether trying to lose weight or get a job during difficult times, you might say, “Oh, what’s the use?” when you’re not successful. Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.
A supervisor who is abrupt, inconsiderate, condescending, or hot-tempered can cause an employee to feel stressed and unhappy about the job he or she was eager to get in the first place. Here’s how to deal:
New Year’s is a potential minefield which could explode your well-being both physically and emotionally. The best way to deal with imminent danger is to be alive and alert. Here are some alarming things that can happen and how to prevent them.
As the Aladdin story goes, if you find an antique brass oil lamp and rub it vigorously, a genie will appear and grant you a wish. Probably you would request something that you needed or believed you wanted to make you happy. So, it makes sense that when you rub sad and glad together you unleash…
Did you ever notice that the more you do for family and friends, the less it is appreciated? Or have you bought a pricey gift and included a cute token gift, only to find out that you have undermined that bigger gift?
A surprising source of simmering female resentment is the myths generated about men. These fictional stories have the power to stress a relationship by triggering habitual ways of listening and responding because you already know character and plot.
It is difficult to have a fair fight with your best friend because you know all the buttons to push and so does this person. Keep in mind that it is often easier to forgive an enemy than a good friend. Here’s the inside story:
Described as hyper-vigilant, anxious and worried, women have trouble falling asleep and/or staying asleep while their male counterparts for the most part sleep more soundly. Here's how to become a morning person.
Life is peppered with contradictions. Bad and good can be used to describe an event or a person depending on the angle of perception. What seems bad today could potentially be good tomorrow and vice versa. So, is your cup half full or half empty?
Saving your relationship could be as simple as switching roles. Gender roles often lock us into predictable, repetitive arguments where no one makes any changes because who is listening anymore? A new sociological study from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee shows why.
When did women start to use poisons in the quest for beauty? The Brazilian Blowout gives the phrase, drop-dead gorgeous, new meaning as it contains a deadly carcinogen. Here are 6 healthy tips to refresh, enhance, and celebrate your beauty:
Back to school, back to work, to-do lists are growing with all this busyness and you wonder how quickly casual, spontaneous summer melted away. Don’t fight fall, embrace it and fall in love. Here's how.
From an evolutionary standpoint human survival has always depended on our ability to get along with others. Is there someone like a family member, friend or colleague with whom you can repair a bridge?
Women who follow endless to-do lists and drive themselves crazy with perfectionism show more symptoms of depression than women who are able to shed some of their duties to achieve greater work-life balance. Here are 6 self-concepts to keep in mind to transform your life to what you want it to be:
You’re literally as good as your word. Words create your reality. They also hold clues to your deepest feelings. Being aware of imagery, pronouns and conjunctions you regularly use can provide important insight into your state of mind.
It is great to fully experience the present and not dilute it with invasive thoughts of the past or even future worries - the way animals live moment to moment; however, humans are far more complex. Here are 7 Steps to understand where you’ve been to get where you want to go.
Even those who claim that they are not prejudiced and would never stereotype anyone, are actually tough on their significant other, even pushing their buttons to actualize the negative behavior in the relationship story.
Both men and women are stressed environmentally, physically and emotionally. However, researchers in social psychiatry point out women are twice as likely as men to develop depression. Why? And what can you do about it?
If you have slackened off your New Year’s Resolutions, luckily you get a big boost: March begins the Motivational New Year and you are likely to succeed now.Here are 3 questions I use every March to help make a fresh start.
How strange that we celebrate a cute rodent every February 2nd (his predictions are correct less than 40% of the time) to determine if we are going to have a long winter! By now many of us are tired of winter, here we snow again, and suffering from a bit of seasonal affective disorder.
Unfortunately, the fence between the two properties wasn’t tall enough, the way Robert Frost would have liked. The shoveling was quickly generating its own angry storm soon to explode in violence: “You shoveled snow into my backyard!”
What is all this fuss about Amy Chua overtly confessing to be a tiger mom? Jewish mothers, if they would tell you their age, have been around for centuries working behind the scenes and the animal that would best describe them would be a hybrid of kangaroo and dragon.
Many of us worry about making a good impression at the office party, a family get-together, or a net-working event. We worry about making intelligent conversation, if we will remember names, if we will be able to join in a group conversation already in progress.
Fall, the season of the harvest, is the time when winter weight gain creeps into our lives at a steady pace. Then the holidays arrive to cheer us up around the winter solstice, ironically bringing more stress and oh, the dinners and parties replete with rich, calorie-laden cuisine.
Recently, I have been hearing adults complaining that they are bored even on vacation. While new studies assert that it is vital to keep busy to feel happier, many of us might be taking busyness to a new level.
Would you describe yourself as critical like you can’t help but notice the flaws? Your negative perceptions might be due to projection. Similarly, positive comments can be self-revealing. Most things that upset your equilibrium challenge your self-worth in some way.
Author and former mistress Holly Hill has written Sugarbabe to let women know that the best way to keep a man in a relationship is to let him sleep around with her permission. However, monogamy doesn’t mean monotony.
While Mel Gibson might be an extreme, we all have some unresolved anger within which we believe we have come to terms with, but then… Anger is a good barometer of your own insecurity – a lack of true power.
You’re in a long term relationship or married and while you can’t pinpoint exactly when things changed in your romantic heart, you realize now that the quirks you once adored have become irritating. It’s never too late to make over your man.
The words, Happy Mother’s Day, can sting. A commercial day set aside to celebrate mothers can be fraught with stress, grief and pain. I don’t mean wracking your brain to buy a generic gift. On Mother’s Day don’t dodge your despair…
Are there inner conflicts which hinder you from self-actualization and happiness? Discover your self-reliance by confronting your do-I-dare mindset. What’s bad might turn out to be really good for you.
Getting off the sugar roller coaster is not just beneficial for your waistline. Without the stress of a sugar surge which is always accompanied by a fatiguing crash, you will experience greater inner peace and stability; also there will be a big boost to your immune system.
How ironic that Valentine’s Day which is supposed to inspire romantic love stresses people out. Go triple A: Avoid the hype. Alter your life story. Act to others the way you want them to behave to you.
This is the interim when we all resolve to be better. Then a couple of weeks down the road we lose our momentum and revert to what we always do. What if we could get fit and improve our mindset at the same time?
When it concerns happiness, many studies focus on how to achieve it. However, this is not getting to the heart of the matter as even depressed people experience happiness; instead the focus should be not merely finding your bliss, but rather holding on to it.
We have been through many ordeals this past year from the recession to relationship karma. However, we can finally stop feeling lonely, distressed and angry. We don’t have to keep repeating the same mistakes with different people and relive the same old story.
Many people who feel lonely never admit that they are lonely because loneliness carries the connotation of being a “loser.” Interesting to note: women are more likely to catch loneliness from other lonely people.
The holiday season sets us up for the McHoliday syndrome, a prefab happiness – a wonderful life for us all. As the holidays approach, we drive ourselves crazy looking for the perfect gift, preparing for the perfect dinner and trying to look perfect. Time to turn the extraordinary into the ordinary.
People go through great lengths to achieve contentment like getting all fired up in sweat lodges to attract success and happiness, a secret they have to pay for. This is why I am revealing my free “Self-Stimulus Package” to show you how to be the person you want to be TODAY.
Feeling stressed - who doesn’t reach for comfort food? Since you are what you eat, food choices can reveal major clues about the buried treasure of personality. Here are some popular comfort foods - what they symbolize and their healthier versions:
Most of us develop a strong connection to our hairstylist. We confide our innermost secrets and share our problems as though the hairstylist were a therapist. Ever wonder what you mother is not telling you, but telling her stylist?
From the moment a male is born statistics show that on average he will live a shorter life span than a woman. He dies first because of the “ideals” of masculinity.
Here’s how to help him change his thinking.
A new study by marketing professor Joe Sirgy of Virginia Tech's has some surprising findings which might help you to make a more cost effective decision to gauge if the trip is worth the expense and your time.
There are coffee personalities; this means the kind of coffee you drink can speak volumes about your personality. Many of us don't know who we are or what we want out of life; the coffee we like can provide a much-needed clue.
We all know the familiar phrase, “The Truth will set you free,” and we all claim to want to know the truth both inside and outside of ourselves. However, new research shows that we really don’t want to know someone else’s truth if it differs from ours.
Most women who take their marriage vows do so with the understanding, the unwritten agreement that their man will be home only: for dinner, weekends and holidays, and of course the occasional flu or sprain.
Have you been tripping on uneven pavements and bumping into furniture or people more than usual? Have stairs become your enemy? Have you become a menace in the produce section of your local supermarket?
In many relationships some as soon as the second year of marriage, others after the seven-year itch and a couple of kids and then unexpectedly many after the silver anniversary – “I woke up one morning and realized that I am living with a stranger. Is this all there is?”
In a highly demanding stress-filled world our children are battered by academic, social and enrichment demands. So, how do you boost your children’s self-esteem and insulate them from a one-size-fits-all world?
Could you be feeling so stressed, so second-rate, that you have lost your own voice, your own image in the mirror and need to be reflected in someone else’s eyes? You just might be suffering from compassion fatigue.
Changing a bad habit into a good one can be daunting to say the least. However, you can silence your stern inner critic and make small easy changes, both at the same time! Your bad habits actually have a lot of good in them!
Many of us feel pressured to be happy and when we are not feeling optimistic and upbeat, we become disappointed; after all we failed at Happiness 101. However, what if every night we compiled a list of “Look What I Did Today?”
During these financially difficult times with massive layoffs and the dollar being devalued we need to get a handle on our expenditures and stop shopping to fill an empty heart or keep up an image. Most of us are aware of the placebo effect. However, do we know the far-reaching effects of a placebo?
Tap into the natural rhythm of spring by engaging in spring cleaning and other spring activities. As I spring into action to de-clutter my space, I clear out my mind, to see my goals in a different light and I announce my intentions as a way to bring them into reality.
Being overweight and feeling depressed go hand in hand. In fact, they fuel one another according to a new study involving women ages 40-60.
How do you boost your self-confidence when you are feeling unattractive, heavier or older?
Normally, we don’t consider an egg, caterpillar, or pupa, to be beautiful. It’s the dazzling butterfly that lures our attention. We must give up our need to control and surrender to our animal nature, letting ourselves be overtaken by transformation. Change happens in stages.
Studies show that a shift in happiness has occurred: Men have cut back on unpleasant activities and relax more while a woman’s "to do" list has increased with less time to do everything. The obvious question: Why can’t women relax more, the way men do?
We have it all, but don’t know what to with it. And now Thanksgiving is almost here and many of us feel compelled to feel thankful. Why then do we drive ourselves crazy overloaded with chores and tensions concerning a holiday of gratefulness?
There are two basic impediments to making new friends. The first is our fear of rejection. The second is not as obvious as the first, our need for instant gratification. It´s not easy making friends anymore or is it?
Halloween celebrates deception, costumes and masks, which disguise who we are. However, are we wearing a disguise or revealing an internal truth, a fragment of our personality we have suppressed, the shadow side? Here are some popular costumes and what they might reveal about you:
In order to tune into him you need to observe what he tunes into on TV. The programs he watches on TV will help you figure him out because while he is absorbed in TV, he does not have his guard up or act defensively.
One of the most basic steps on the pathway to happiness is forgiveness. Holding on to grudges, entrenched in being absolutely right, we doom ourselves to living in the past while poisoning our present. What is really bothering you: That someone hurt you or that you allowed yourself to be hurt?
I just returned from a whirlwind TV news station tour out West, five cities in five days. When you travel for business or pleasure and your schedule is hectic, don’t let yourself get depleted. Here’s what worked for me:
The urge to gossip can be irresistible. According to recent statistics both men and women gossip about the same subjects and just as often! Considering that 2/3 of our conversations consist of gossip, there are some redeeming qualities.
It feels good to be bad once in awhile because we liberate ourselves from restrictions. Regrets fall into a different category. Since everyone experiences some sort of regret when reflecting on the past, it only becomes a problem if:
To manage your daily stress and feel reasonably happier you need to broaden your associations and liberate your mind from the blind respect you have given teachers, parents and professionals – people pleasing.
Everything has become ordinary and unacceptably mediocre. There are concrete signs of potential breakups; some of which come from feng shui, that cannot be rationalized away. Often words obscure issues, but the tangible facts don’t lie.
These days everyone wants a faster metabolism to be able to eat more, lose weight and have everyone admire that you have a fast metabolism. Wouldn’t it be great to metabolize your past – the anger, the regrets and the sadness?
Some couples choose to stay together even though there is no romance. This type of marriage can best be described as the non-divorce.Listen to callers-in to my radio show who reveal their secret lives concerning living in marriage limbo.
Color has a powerful sensory appeal and many of us learn from visual cues. Understanding what different colors transmit and say about people can improve communication and engender respect and acceptance for personality differences. Here are some colors and what they might mean to you:
Everyone in a relationship argues. Most revealing about the happiness factor of your relationship and of course, how good you feel about yourself is your fighting style. See if you fit any of the four categories:
Humor can make your marriage happier than ever! Neuroscience explains that what makes you laugh is not only subjective, but based on gender. Understanding his style of humor can make him more endearing as well as reveal important clues about how to be in-sync with him.
Are you feeling tired, the kind of tired where nothing really matters anymore? Have your energy levels dipped to the point that you feel like you are dragging around a leg iron? Here are some suggestions to help you get fired up: